The Perfect Girlfriend

The perfect girlfriend.

Yes, she exists. And no, she is not the supermodel type with the long legs and the perfect skin -- She's even better. She's the type of girl that looks boring. The one you'd overlook, she'd be your last choice. At worst, she is insecure, clingy, shallow, jealous, nagging, sensitive, emotional, dramatic, and annoying. But if you can't handle her at her worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve her at her best.

So what is a PERFECT GIRLFRIEND?

They say that there is no such thing as perfection, and that she doesn't exist. Oh trust me, she does.

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She dresses up all cute and pretty every time you take her out on a date. This is her way of keeping you interested as your eyes are locked solely on her. You stare on other girls instead, and she gets hurt and upset that all her time and effort are put to waste.

YOU CALL HER INSECURE.

She holds on to you and never lets you go. This is her way of telling other girls that she has you and no, you're not available.

YOU CALL HER CLINGY.

She calls you the sweetest nicknames or the ones that only you two will understand. This is her way of saying how special you are and that there's nobody else in this world like you. You call other girls "MAHAL/BABY/MINE", just as how you would call her and she gets disappointed.

YOU CALL HER SHALLOW AND JEALOUS.

She checks up on you, makes sure you made it home safely or that you're not out getting yourself into any kind of trouble. This is her way of showing you how often she thinks about you and that she worries constantly because that's how much she cares.

YOU CALL HER NAGGING.

She cries when you do or say something wrong. This is her way of saying, "That hurts only because YOU said it and I LOVE YOU."

YOU CALL HER OVERLY SENSITIVE AND EMOTIONAL.

She loves you more than you love her. This is her way of dealing with the fact that your relationship wasn't like how it used to be.

YOU CALL HER DRAMATIC AND ANNOYING.

So go ahead, leave the insecure, clingy, jealous, nagging, overly sensitive, annoying girl. She will soon be much happier in the arms of someone who actually deserves her -- The Perfect Boyfriend ;)

Appreciation is far more different from Flattery

"The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other is insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other is selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned."


-Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People

My Old Status in FB..

I checked my old FB account and I was surprised to see all these Status messages.. They're so much 'me'..
Here are those stats..


"‎...I hate being toyed. I know that I am not "goddamn gorgeous" and "oh-so-stunningly beautiful", but I think I don't deserve that kind of treatment..."


"Hindi ako nagpapanggap na hard-to-get. Kaya kapag hindi ako nagpakita ng interes sa isang tao, hindi talaga ako interesado sa kanya."


"Isang eksena sa aming inuupahang bahay..


Ezer: Steve, di ba ang bobo walang alam?
Steve: haha! Oo pare..
Ezer: Bobo ba ko, Steve?
Steve: Wahaha!! Oo!!
Ezer: Ah.. Alam ko. .
Steve: (Speechless)


hahaha!.."


"My life is full of bullshit pretensions..


So what?
e hindi nga ako natural!


...wala kang pakialam.
kaya wag mo kong pakialamanan."


"Kahit gaano karaming signs pa ang dumating o kaya ay matupad,
kung hindi ka niya mahal, HINDI KA TALAGA N'YA MAHAL..
[Signs-signs pa kasi..]"


"they say that the fruit of your labor tasted best when it is shared..
but for me, it's fine if you'll eat it yourself!"


"Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different."


"Babae kami.. Dapat samin nilalambing, minamahal at iniintindi..
Hindi kami pinipikon, inaasar, ginigisa at pinapagalitan sa marahas na paraan.
Itatak mo sa isip at puso mo na ang babae, kahit anong ikot at baligtad ng mundo, babae pa rin.
At ang babae dapat tinitreat sa pinaka-special na paraan..
Kahit sino pa s'ya..
Kahit ano pa itsura n'ya.."


I realized that I became a real bitchy, rude, hard, frank, emo, heartless, self-centered and indepent once.. Ako mismo, nabilib ako sa attitude ko nung nagising na ako at nakita na innately devilish pala talaga ang bawat tao..
Then after a few months, here I am, the output of those wounded lines.. Hindi na ako ganun katigas ang ugali ko compared sa attitude ko before, but somehow, yung karamihan sa natutunan ko sa tragic experience ko ay naaapply ko until now.. Parang di ko na kayang ibalik ang ugali ko dati.. Yung dating ako na super idealistic, imaginative, selfless, naive, optimistic, loving, sensitive, enthusiastic and naniniwala sa forever..


Ang dami kong natutunan sa naging ako dahil sa mga stats na yan.. I think dapat kong iapply tong ganitong ugali, para palagi akong maging strong.. Para wala nang makapanakit sa kin..

my best 'Patama' lines... :)

‎Our best "patama" line for the boys..

"Babae kami.. Dapat samin nilalambing, minamahal at iniintindi..
Hindi kami pinipikon, inaasar, ginigisa at pinapagalitan sa marahas na paraan.
Itatak mo sa isip at puso mo na ang babae, kahit anong ikot at baligtad ng mundo, babae pa rin.
At ang babae dapat tinitreat sa pinaka-special na paraan..
Kahit sino pa s'ya..
Kahit ano pa itsura n'ya.."

...and their best "patama" line for us.. [hmmp! :)]

"Sana hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon, biro ang turing ninyo sa bawat salitang sinasabi namin. Mas madalas kasi sa hindi, dinadaan na lang namin sa tawa ang lahat, sa biro ang bawat bagay na gusto naming iparating kapag pakiramdam namin ay hindi ninyo tatanggapin yun. Tagos sa puso namin ang bawat effort na ibinibigay namin para maging masaya kayo pero parang ang dali dali sa inyong wag bigyan ng value yun. Korni man at mdramang pakinggan pero yun ang totoo.

Masakit din kapag pabago-bago kayo ng isip, yung tipong ngayon, oo, mamaya hindi na. Hindi namin alam kung saan lulugar, parang palaging dapat kami ang umintindi na ganun talaga ang nature ninyong mga babae - ang maging unstable ang utak.

Walang masama kung hindi ninyo sasabihin na lahat ng lalake ay hindi seryoso. Kasi hindi naman totoo yun. Siguro nga karamihan sa amin ay maloko at babaero. Pero kapag nagmahal kami, totoo yun. At kapag kami, nasugatan, matagal bago maghilom."

sakit.. :'(

Get Well Soon. 'pa.. :')

Papa is still at CLDH this moment.. Sa sobrang sakit ng nararamdaman nea, kailangan nea pang matarakan ng Nubain para kayanin nea ang kirot sa loob..

Kidney.. kidney na naman.. after more or less nine years, kidney pa rin ang dahilan kung bakit sya nahihirapan ngayon..

Kahapon sa pagsamba, hindi ko napigilang hindi humagulgol sa koro.. Gustong gusto kong kuhanin yung nararamdaman neang sakit.. Mahina na kasi ang katawan ni papa, ampayat payat na nya lalo.. Naalala ko pa last June 6, nung hinatid nea ko sa sakayan pabalik dito sa Makati, kahit na halatang pagod na pagod na sya pinilit pa rin neang maging strong ang itsura nya para di ako mag alala.. That time, iba na kutob ko, parang merong nang problema sa katawan si papa, kasi namayat na naman sya.. Then after five days, yun nga, sinugod na sya sa hospital.. Sa emergency room sya diniretso..

Nung sinabi ni ate rox sakin na bigla nga sya sinugod sa Concepcion, hindi ko pa agad naabsorb kasi ang saya saya dito sa office nun (blessing kasi ng bagong office ng tech last friday).. Then nung aroun 6 PM na, binasa ko ng paulit uliut ung txt ni ate rox, saka ko narealize kung ganu kabigat yung nangyari..

Para kong mauupos na palito ng posporo, hanggsng ngayon nanghihina pa ko.. Parang di ko kayang isipin na si papa, na ina-idolize ko sa pagiging sobrang strong at bait e nasa hospital ngayon at nanghihina sa sakit na meron sya..

Kababasa ko ng article about Nubain (nalbuphine) at nakita kong masyadong malakas na uri ng anesthesia yun.. Nawindang ako dahil sa sobrang dami ng side effects na meron yung gamot.. Hindi lang nakakapanghina, posible ring maapektuhan yung pagsasalita at ang vision ng pasyente pag nasobrahan ng tarak.. Andito ko sa office ngayon, pero di ko napigil na hindi maiyak sa nerbyos.. Pwedeng mautal ang pasyente pag hindi kinaya ng katawan nya yung taas ng dosage..Parang di ko kakayanin na makita si papa sa ganung kondisyon..

Kaya namin to.. Kaya ni papa kasi strong sya.. Kasi sya ang pinaghuhugutan ko ng lakas at inpirasyon.. Kasi kaming tatlo lang nila nitoy ang lalake sa pamilya..haha.. :)

Please pray for us.. pray for my father.. He's the center of our family, and we can't afford to lose someone so heartful and loving as him..

I miss my IT skills.. :')

I've been the CRM of TechCellar for more than a month now.. Being a fresh grad, I can say that I'm lucky to be absorbed by this company.. Hindi na ko nahirapang maghanap ng work ni hindi ko naicategorized ang sarili ko as jobseeker or unemployed..
Nakakatuwang isipin na hindi ako naging palamunin na gaya nung iba na nakatapos lang, OK na yun sa kanila.. Tech have given me a great opportunity to be a useful citizen.. [a big round of applause please..:))]
But on the other hand, I'm also wishing to practice what is my actual career path(supposedly).. Oftentimes, I'm thinking what might be my stand when I search for an IT job.. minsan pakiramdam ko walang naging sense ang degree ko dahil nasa sales na ko ngayon..
Yes, I admit, I miss coding.. I miss spending the whole night trying to conceptualize what is the good features for a certin system.. I miss designing a website.. I miss letting the blood run down my nose after three sleepless nights.. haha..


Marami akong natutunan sa work ko ngayon.. more exposure, better communication and social skills.. All of these are included on the CRM path.. I love my work and I enjoy all these stuff.. But syempre, gusto ko rin maexperience yung gaya before.. yung para akong magaling, na ako pa yung nagtuturo sa mga classmates ko, na ngayon e mga coder/programmer na.. :')


Almost all of my classmates are very proud of me, kesyo ang ayos daw ng position ko, andami ko raw natututunan, na kesyo sana sila rin daw ganito sa kin.. Less work, more libot, more self confidence[which, for me, is not yet seen :S]..


Maybe magkakaroon din ako ng pagkakataon na matry yung dating bagay kung saan ako expert, kung saan isa ako sa mga kinukuhanan ng concepts and good design.. kung saan may alam din naman ako kahit papano..


La lang..kakamiss maging IT..nakakamiss lang talaga magprogram..