2023
“Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.” - Mark Twain
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“When you give joy to other people, you get more joy in return. You should give a good thought to happiness that you can give out.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
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"Opportunities don't happen. You create them." - Chris Grosser
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2012
Men loves to listen to women who speaks softly..
"In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Say about yourself all the derogatory things you know the other person is thinking or wants to say or intends to say - and say them before that person has a chance to say them. The chances that are a hundred to one that a generous, forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized.
There is a certain degree on satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears the air of guilt and defensiveness, but it often helps solve the problem created by the error.
"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated, and this principle differentiates us from animals."
-W. James
If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can't radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something in return - if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve.
"The reason why rivers and seas receive the homeage of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them. Thus they are able to reign over all the mountain streams. So the sage, wishing to be above men, putteth himself before them, putteth himself behind them. Thus, though his place be above men, they do not feel his weight, though, his place be before them they do not count it an injury."
-Lao-Tze
"Cooperatives in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person's ideas and feelings as important as your own. Starting your conversation by giving the other person the purpose or direction, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas."
-Dr. Gerald S. Nirenberg, Getting Through to People
"It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring"
-Alfred Adler, What Life Should Mean to You
When we are wrong, we may admit it to ourselves. And if we handled gently and tactfully, we may admit to others and even take pride in our frankness ad broad-mindedness. But not if someone else is trying to ram the unpalatable fact down our esophagus.
We enter intimate relationships blindly, often effortlessly, swept up with passion and an idealized perception of our partner. Most of us are totally unprepared for what lies ahead and ignorant of what is required to last the course...
Then we will be left alone with the realization that nothing lasts forever; ending up being cold and bitter and full of hatred.
Lesson: Be realistic and full of wisdom before you enter a relationship. Prepare yourself into something painful and anticipate the fact that every relationship has its ending. And when that time comes, dont be sad because it's over. Instead, be happy because it happened.
When we are right, let us try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong, - and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves, -let's admit our mistakes quickly with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique produce astonishing results; but, believe it or not, it is a lot more fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself.
Remember the old proverb: "By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected."
If a man's heart is rankling with discord and ill feeling toward you, you can't win him to your way of thinking with all the logic in Christendom. Scolding parents and domineering bosses and husbands and nagging wives ought to realize that people do not want to change their minds. They cannot be forced or driven to agree with you or me. But they may possibly lead to, if we are gentle and friendly, ever so gentle and ever so friendly.